Remember those t shirt from back in the day, the No Fear ones? They had these eyes as a logo and the crazy font for the lettering… oh yeah you remember! Then, “No Fear” started getting added to everything. I remember my Boy Scout troop making shirts and randomly having “No Fear” on the back along with our logos. Ridiculous. Now, I’m bringing back the No Fear and making that my
resolution goal for 2015 – to get rid of fear.
I’m a planner. Or, maybe more precisely, I don’t like to leave things to chance. I like to be in control. Control provides an element of safety. But, control is stressful, impossible, and really forces you to miss out on life – because let’s face it, life is definitely out of control!
Take the start of this year. I got sick. I probably lost all my strength gains that I had been making in the gym. That sucks. That was not part of the plan.
But… so what? I enjoyed squatting and lifting and all that to get there in the first place, it’ll be almost as enjoyable the second time, right?
… yeah, if only I was actually so optimistic. Instead, I brood and find myself upset because I had no intention to get sick and that changes all my plans.
How do fear and planning relate? Well, the thing I fear most is being out of control..
I heard this illustration before and it sums me up pretty well. Imagine a swiftly flowing river. That’s life. I’m in the middle of this river, on a nice flat stone that the river runs around. I’m content on my little stone. I can see down the river to some rapids and more turbulent parts. But also, that’s where the sun always is shining and where I long to be. But, my little rock is safe and the river is scary.
I’m in control on my rock. As soon as I jump in the river, I’m at its (life’s) mercy.
It is proper to be apprehensive about rapids (life’s unknowns) because, yeah, they are scary! They can be dangerous. But, life isn’t meant to be spent hanging out on a safe little boring rock. Life is the journey, man. I’ve got to face my fears and hop in the river and let go.
So let’s back up. I said I want to get rid of fear. Well, scratch that. I don’t want to totally get rid of fear, because fear does have benefits. I want to vanquish the crippling fear that is keeping my life from taking the next step.
Do I for sure know what those next steps lead to? Nope. Is my rock pretty safe and comfortable most of the time. Yup. But there’s a longing for more, and I know that the more is better and would be better. Fear just shuts me down.
No more fear shutdown!
No being too scared to push myself into the red during a workout.
No being too scared to pursue my entrepreneur business aspirations.
No being too scared to take my relationships further to where they should be, or to end ones that no longer fulfill a purpose.
No being too scared to take vacations and travel on interstates where there are so many idiot drivers.
No being too scared to try new foods and new ways of eating.
No being too scared to work hard at my job and to expect to be compensated for my hard work.
No being too scared to trust love.
I do have other goals for the year, some more tangible than others. I have certain strength numbers I want to hit (we will see where I’m at when I get back from this sickness) and certain benchmark times I want to obtain. I have relationship goals. I have monetary goals. I have blogging goals.
Abolishing the bad fear will lead to gains and successes in all these areas.
So, that’s my plan. (Of course I still have to have some sort of plan! I am me, after all.)
I’m going to let go of the control that fear has had.
This is one goal/resolution that I plan on keeping.
Your turn -> What is a goal of yours for 2015? Does fear control you?